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Understanding Anxiety

A compassionate guide to what's happening inside your body and mind

Anxiety is a completely natural human response—it’s our body’s way of protecting us when we think we’re in danger, even if no actual threat exists. It’s part of our survival system, often called the “fight or flight” response. While this response can be helpful in genuinely threatening situations, it can sometimes be triggered by stress, memories, or even daily tasks, leading to uncomfortable physical and emotional symptoms.

You Are Not Alone

If you’ve ever worried that something’s “wrong” with you because of your anxiety, you’re not alone—and you’re not broken. Around 1 in 5 people will experience significant anxiety at some point in their lives. It can affect anyone, regardless of age, personality, or background.

What Anxiety Might Feel Like

When the fight-or-flight system is activated, your body shifts into high alert to prepare for action—even if there’s no real danger. This can cause symptoms like:

· Racing heart or strong heartbeat

· Shallow or rapid breathing, chest tightness

· Sweating or cold hands and feet

· Dizziness, light-headedness, or blurred vision

· Muscle tension or shaking

· Digestive discomfort (like nausea or a “heavy” stomach)

· Feeling disconnected or overwhelmed

You may also notice changes in your thinking and behaviour, such as difficulty concentrating, feeling restless, avoiding situations, or worrying excessively.

Why Anxiety Happens

Anxiety can be caused by a combination of factors—genetics, past experiences, stress, and learned patterns of thinking or reacting. You might have developed ways of coping that were useful at one point in your life, but now feel overwhelming or out of place.

Even though anxiety can be distressing, it is not dangerous. The sensations you’re experiencing are your body’s way of trying to protect you.

Moving Toward Calm

The good news is that anxiety doesn’t have to run your life. With support, awareness, and the right tools, you can learn to work with your anxiety instead of fighting against it.

At Counselling with Equipoise, I offer a compassionate, non-judgmental space to help you understand your anxiety and develop personalised strategies for relief and long-term wellbeing.

A Gentle Invitation to Self-Care

Life can be demanding, and amidst the hustle, it’s easy to forget to care for the most important person—you. Self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. It’s about honouring your needs, nurturing your well-being, and embracing kindness towards yourself.

Understanding Self-Care

Self-care is the practice of taking actions to preserve or improve your health. It’s recognizing when you’re running low and replenishing your energy. It’s not selfish; it’s essential.

Simple Self-Care Practices

Here are some gentle ways to incorporate self-care into your daily life:

· Physical Nourishment: Eat balanced meals, stay hydrated, and get adequate rest.

· Emotional Check-Ins: Take a moment to ask yourself, “How am I feeling today?”

· Mindful Moments: Engage in activities that ground you—be it meditation, deep breathing, or a walk in nature.

· Creative Expression: Write, draw, dance, or engage in any form of art that brings you joy.

· Social Connections: Spend time with loved ones or reach out to someone you trust.

· Digital Detox: Allocate time to unplug from devices and reconnect with the present moment.

Creating Your Self-Care Plan

1. Identify Needs: Reflect on areas of your life that feel neglected.

2. Set Intentions: Choose one or two self-care activities to focus on.

3. Schedule Time: Dedicate specific times in your week for these activities.

4. Reflect and Adjust: Regularly assess how these practices are impacting your well-being and make adjustments as needed.

A Note to Yourself

Remember, self-care is a journey, not a destination. It’s okay to have days when things don’t go as planned. Be gentle with yourself, celebrate small victories, and know that every step you take towards self-care is a step towards a healthier, happier you.

With warmth and compassion,

Sharleen